When Going Home is NOT a Cause for Celebration.

When Going Home is NOT a Cause for Celebration.

A month ago, I was super excited.  Two weeks ago, I was bubbly at the thought.  Yesterday, I was reserved.  Today, I’m scared.  My MIL has been cleared by her doctor to go home.  Woot woo…wait.  What?  What does that mean? The reality of what life will be like is setting in.  The same person […]

It’s not just “the blues”…

It’s not just “the blues”…

Since my MIL has been in a care facility, we’ve noticed that her mood isn’t quite as spunky as it used to be.  It isn’t surprising — she went from being fulling independent to being fully dependent just like that!  There was no time to prepare.  It just happened. Late last week, a doctor mentioned […]

Putting the FUN in dysFUNctional!

Putting the FUN in dysFUNctional!

Let’s face it, families are already complicated and dysfunctional.  When we are confronted with a crisis such as a failing parent, the emotional (reactionary) floodgates burst open! I recently heard some words, delivered in the exact same tone that I heard 20-30 years ago, and they had the exact same impact and produced the exact […]

Random Acts of Kindness

Random Acts of Kindness

Over last weekend, my husband and I went to lunch with a group of friends.  It was a beautiful day in Northern CA and I had a lovely time talking with several people.  One woman in particular I felt that I really connected with — We talked about all sorts of stuff including what’s going […]

How do you support someone who doesn’t want your help…or should you?

How do you support someone who doesn’t want your help…or should you?

Have I mentioned lately how hard it is to be a caretaker?  It isn’t the time, the physical requirements, the organization.  It’s the emotional toll and the unknown what-if looming just off in the distance. There are just some days that are harder than others.  It’s been weeks since I’ve written a post, simply because […]

Beyond OK: be a better elder caretaker in 3 easy steps

Beyond OK: be a better elder caretaker in 3 easy steps

I would love to tell you that taking care of someone else is easy and by just doing 3 easy steps one time, you will be a pro!  It just doesn’t work that way.  Caretaking is one of the hardest, and one of the most rewarding, things you will ever do.  When the days are […]

We all fall down…

We all fall down…

  When a parent falls, it feels so different than when your children fell when they were little.  Remember how you used to say, “Oh, you’re OK!” if your toddler took a tumble? So what, your child got a scrape on their knee or even broke an arm — They’ll recover, no big deal.  But […]

My First Freshly.com Shipment is Here!

My First Freshly.com Shipment is Here!

I am so excited that my first Freshly shipment arrived on my doorstep today!  If you haven’t been following my blog up to this point,  I have been looking for some options to help provide meals to my Mother-in-Law, Stella, that are nutritious, pretty, and delicious and provide me peace of mind that she has […]

Make “pin-worthy” meals for your senior parent

Make “pin-worthy” meals for your senior parent

I admit it!  Sometimes I get so busy that I forget how important food is in our lives.  Food is social and happy.  How many times have you gone out to eat or gone to a party and took a picture of the table or your plate for Instagram, Pinterest or Facebook? The colors, textures, […]

Creative ways to Sneak Spinach into your Meals

Creative ways to Sneak Spinach into your Meals

Let’s face it…Spinach is good for you! But not everyone likes this leafy green. In my case, I was introduced to spinach as a canned vegetable and it was, frankly, disgusting. In recent years, I’ve changed my ways starting with Ree Drummond’s (The Pioneer Woman) Spinach Salad, and then jumping into making my own green […]